Short answer: this is extremely common and it does not mean the training is failing. The skills you build solo (breath control, pelvic floor awareness, reading your arousal scale) are learned in a low-pressure context. Partner sex adds a new variable: performance pressure, and that alone can spike arousal. A practical bridge: 1. Bring the same drills into foreplay, not just solo sessions. 2. Use the start-stop technique with your partner, not only alone. 3. Rate your arousal 1-10 every 30-60 seconds and slow down at 6, not at 9. 4. Keep a weekly note of how long you last; look at the trend, not a single session. Most men notice the gap closing over 6-12 weeks of partner practice. Educational note: this is guidance, not a diagnosis. If it persists, a urologist or pelvic floor physiotherapist can help.
That actually helps a lot, thanks. I think I was rating myself way too late, at 8-9 instead of 6.
Had the same thing. What worked for me was slowing down much earlier and doing reverse kegels when I felt it building. Stick with it man.
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